March 9, 2022 at 9:37 am #57085
Please feel free to introduce your system here. This will help so that folk don’t have to spend as long on introductions when we’re live.
We are the Crisses (they/them), and we’re your coach facilitator/instructor for the course, the headmates most involved with this curriculum are Buck (he/him), Moonlite (she/her) & Star& (they/them). As Moonlite is non-verbal/deaf, and Star& rarely fronts anymore mainly Buck will be running live sessions we figure. Y’all will likely be able to tell Buck & Star& apart — they may front for the session on Empathy & Boundaries, we’ll see.
We’re a quoigenic-identified mixed origin polyfragmented DID-dx system, about 157 system members last count, about 20 main fronters, and we figured out that we’re plural in 1986. We’re non-binary, gender-fluid, rights activists, pansexual, polyamorous, spiritual, autistic, and a bunch of other stuff I’m sure. Y’all are likely to bump into Justin Case (our class clown who usually isn’t far from Buck) and if they blend/co-front we call that blend Bustin’ Chops.
CrissesMarch 11, 2022 at 11:05 pm #57129thedreamwritersParticipant
Hi all We’re the DreamWriters Polyplex, a mixed-origin gateway system.
We decided to join this course since we’re kinda processing syskid/reparenting issues in therapy and a lot of the blocks we’ve been running into are trust-blocks around protectors and kids being skeptical of the Inner Parents team and that being entirely OUT of the wheelhouse of most of the Internal Parents because we’ve never really had syskids with trust issues before that we were aware of!
The folks you’ll *most likely* see around in this course are:
representing the Internal Parents team: Giselle & Phil predominantly and to a lesser extent: The Cat Caretaker, Il Dottore, Aidan, Genna, Saul, and Dominic.
representing the skeptics/rebels and the newer syskids: Loki (main protector-rebel, one of the new folks) & Vivian (a really old protector/rebel)March 12, 2022 at 8:46 am #57130
It doesn’t have to be long, and there’s no obligation on what to say. Some folk may be more-or-less anonymous, others may want to say more about themselves.
Some folk like to share identity labels, type of plurality/plural labels, size of their system & whether or not they’re polyfragmented, how long they’ve known they’re plural, maybe a few names of folk in their system likely to participate in the course, where they’re located in general or time zone type stuff for context, and maybe why they’re here or their attitude/hope for the course — that’s all optional.
It’s nice to have an idea of who is in the course for context’s sake.March 12, 2022 at 1:44 pm #57150CupsofTeaSystemParticipant
Hi – this is Tracy from the Cups of Tea System, and use she/they pronouns (either is fine.) We were diagnosed when the body was 24 and now the body is 46. I started actually addressing having DID just 3-4 years ago in therapy, and it’s very slow going because I have a lot of shame/embarrassment around being a system. As far as I know, there are around 20-25 in the system and I don’t have communication or co-consciousness except when doing hypnosis in therapy. My therapist knows some of the ones in the system better than I do. I know that there is a 6yo one named Elly, and as far as I know most other ones go by ages rather than names. There is a dissociation denier called EP and I don’t know how often anyone fronts really. I live in the midwest and have joined this course to try to work more towards better trust and communication within the system. I will likely only participate via typing for privacy reasons. Looking forward to the course and information.March 18, 2022 at 12:35 am #57212kraitParticipant
Greetings to all the systems in this course. I/we are going by “Chris&” which is short for “Chris and company”, as we have not yet picked a system name. We’re a 51 years old polyamorous plural mildly autistic male with multi-gendered headmates. We figured out we were a system in approximately 2003 through listening to our own thoughts looking for what was going on with us, because we had “watched our body do things like it was a movie” a few times over the years, as well as other kinds of behavior we were confused by. We didn’t know to do this until we reconnected with someone that admitted they were “multiple” that we had known years earlier, and whom we are honored to still be connected with today. We have not yet been diagnosed with dissociative disorder yet, but there’s no question — we either have DID or something along those lines.
We still aren’t sure how many headmates we have, because there are a number of us that are “below deck” where we don’t have “visibility” of them, don’t hear their thoughts, and only occasionally get glimpses of them. A good rough guess is that we have at least 20 headmates, and at least one “headmate” is a subsystem. Our system generally switches between headmates very fluidly, such that it is not uncommon for a switch to occur mid-sentence as we’re speaking. For plurals that are mindful and aware, we have a number of known “tells” where who we are can be observed in our physical expression as well as our voice and mannerisms, and we have generally have distinct handwriting between headmates.
Our system has evolved quite a lot in recent years doing various plural classes (such as this one) as well as therapy for PTSD. We slowly “onboarded” a number of headmates over a period of years from “stowaways” to “passengers” and then some of us to “staff” and to “bridge officers” running our “ship”. Our officers tend to “blend” a lot now, where several headmates are co-fronting at once, and this has led to a new kind of fluidity that has yielded a much more resilient system and has made things really interesting for us in new ways that we would not have thought possible. We generally “pass as singular” around singletons that are not plural-aware.
During the Jitsi calls for the course we will most likely have Gunther, Chris, Toby, and “Mr X” and/or Sakker blending together at different times. Chris will be notable as having a calm voice, being introverted, and avoiding cursing (where the rest of us is willing to when it feels appropriate). Gunther will be notable as being more flamboyant, animated, and extroverted. Mr X is notable for speaking with a more gruff voice — he is a system protector today but used to act as an internal persecutor. Toby is more passionate and feels emotions stronger than most of the rest of us can. All of our headmates are special to us and we all do our best to care for one-another and keep ourselves safe and content.
We find ourselves most comfortable being around and speaking with other plurals, which we now do several times a week. We appreciate the opportunity to communicate with all of you as part of this course.March 18, 2022 at 12:36 am #57213kraitParticipant
P.S. we tend to be a bit verbose sometimes. 😛March 19, 2022 at 11:16 am #57214CrystalsParticipant
Hi this is Crystals we’re a trauamagenitc Dissociative Identity Response System (trying to get away from the term disorder). We were diagnosed maybe 10 years ago and have had the great privilege of working with therapist who knew more than we do and could help us as we were meeting people and do some trauma processing. We’ve been in plural online communities since right before we were diagnosed and had a group at our house for a while. We’ve taken a couple of these courses and gotten a lot out of them, although there’s resistance or maybe not everyone always on board and a lot of fear, especially around something like building trust. we’ve done a lot of system work as far as creating opportunities to learn about each other and have quite a bit of communication at times.
We are about 36 known people, blend and co-front a lot, generally there is never Just one person fronting. We are excited about the course because we’ve dropped away from system work and have done things like deny we’re a system or try to shut down system members because that’s what we thought we needed to do to function in life. It was wonderful to meet everyone last week.April 9, 2022 at 4:50 pm #57350
Thanks for the responses, everyone 🙂 We really appreciate the participation in the forums. It’s helpful, especially for folk who haven’t been able to make it some weeks.
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